Inside My Head

Here are a couple of things I’ve had to deal with in my life. Some are lessons, advice, things I keep telling myself to do… Please, feel free to add anymore.

Depend on no one but yourself

No matter how many people you have in your life, even your own parents will decide not to help you one day. Yeah, you may have a lot of friends, but there will come a time in your life when everyone you turn to tells you the same thing: “I wish I could help but I can’t right now” Its going to feel like the whole world as turned their back on you. If you ever fall into a big hole, you better have the tools you need to pull yourself back up.

Nothing is really yours

We all work hard to get paid. And in turn, we all go out and buy a whole lot of shit we really don’t need. And we become greedy. “No you can’t borrow my ipod!” “Do you know how much my camera cost me?!” We go around buying things and saying it’s ours when in reality, it’s not 100% true that it’s yours. One day you might be walking around and misplace your precious watch, someone will come along and find it. Guess what?? It’s theirs now. It’s no longer yours. Or you might run into someone that needs what you have more than you. “Hey I really like your purse! Can I have it?” Even though you know they no longer make that purse, you give it to her. And once again it’s not yours anymore. Everything is what it is: a MATERIAL!!! You have all this shit, for what?? It’s not going with you when you die. When you lose something, someone out there needed that thing more than you!

Time doesn’t heal all wounds

Everyone always says that only time will mend all wounds. Well that’s bs. The only thing that will make you feel better is the closure you need. It might take years to get it, and that’s where time gets misunderstood as the healing. How is it possible that 20 years can go by and you act like everything’s ok, but when you think about that one moment, you can’t help but cry? The only way to heal your wounds is to set everything out on the table and get your questions answered!

Change is good

As humans, we’re scared to change, to adapt. A crisis could happen to us and we don’t know how to react. Without notice we get involved into relationships and our whole world changes. Everything is brighter, better. But when relationships fail, everything falls apart. Why is it that when we create a new relationship it’s so easy to change our life, but when the relationship is over we don’t want to change?? Yeah yeah, everything happens for a reason. But who cares?? You’re devastated. Here’s my advice. Don’t go out right away with your friends. You need time to mourn. To be alone, and really cry it out. And when you’re ready to have fun, do it. Another thing that’ll make you feel better is to change something in your life: your hair, your outfit.

Think positive

There will come a time when fucking shit will just happen!!! You hate the situation you’re in, you don’t want to be there. What’s all your complaining going to do?? NOTHING! Just get people mad which in turn gets you mad, and it just goes around. Instead try to find something positive about the situation and enjoy it. Enjoy every moment, its part of your life.

You need an outlet

Everyone gets angry, frustrated, stressed, etc. It’s best to have a healthy way of expressing that emotion. Don’t keep it bottled in. Find an activity that you love to do, and go do it. I don’t mean sitting on your sofa eating a pint of Ben and Jerry’s. You need to go out there and do something physical. Go running, swimming, play some ball. For me, yoga works best.

Don’t give your number out to strangers

Back in the day when I used to hang out my car window and shout “Hey what’s your number??” I would end up having to change my number cause of crazy people. Don’t get me wrong, not everyone’s like that, and for those that don’t know: I happen to have met Manny that way too. I suggest that you’ve at least had a decent conversation with the person before giving out your number. Make sure they aren’t stalker material!! Persistent can be a good thing. We’re also scared to make eye contact with a complete stranger. That when they ask us to dance we just say “No you crazy head!!” Most of the times, they will ask you again and again and again. Trust your instincts, if you see they’re a good person, go for it. Meet a new friend. If it wasn’t for Potter, I wouldn’t have met one of the coolest persons I know!!

Volkswagon is a piece of shit

That’s all I have to say about that. Thanks to volkswagon, I never want to buy a German car again!! Those damn Nazis can’t get anything right!

Credit cards will find you

No matter how many times you move or get your number changed, those fuckers will find you and demand their money. They’ll call you nonstop from 7am to 9pm. My advice, just don’t get a credit card!!

Nothing in this life is free

No matter who you are, everybody’s got their price.

Being 20-something really sucks!!

You see your parents do it and think “I can do that. I can live on my own.” As soon as you step foot out the front door you get a right hook to your face. Welcome to the REAL WORLD!! You never realized all the shit you have to pay for. Rent, light, water, phone, car, insurance, gas, groceries… and those are just the things you need to survive. On top of that you have credit cards, but that’s your problem because you only use that for shit you don’t need. Your whole paycheck is gone. The money you have left over is for the special trip to McDonalds. It makes you want to fast forward to when you’re actually done with school, have a career, and get paid a salary. You barely go shopping for new clothes anymore. Much less to decorate your new place. I guess the walls can stay white until I’m 30!

Everything does happen for a reason

Maybe you lost your job, or broke off your engagement. But yes, everything is for the best. “Why me??” you think, “Why am I being punished??” And actually, that situation happened to you because God knows that you can handle it. A saying I always tell myself is: “God never closes the door without opening a window!” And it’s true. Better things will come.

Everything you need is right in front of you

God knows what you need before you do. And he has it laid out for you. Refer back to number 2. What you need will be laid out for you in your path. It has happened to me many times when I tell myself I really need something, and the day I really need it, the object is there. That someone who didn’t need it left it behind. Don’t stress over things you can’t control. Stress isn’t going to make things appear. Just let it happen. If it does, it does. If it doesn’t, it doesn’t. Unneeded stress will cause medical problems.

Relationships

Relationships, of all kind, are like sand held in your hand. Held loosely with an open hand, the sand remains where it is. The minute you close your hand and squeeze tightly to hold on, the sand trickels through your fingers. You may hold onto some of it, but most will be spilled. A relationship is like that. Held loosley with respect and freedom for the other person, it is likely to remain intact. But hold on too tightly, too possessively, and the realtionship slips away and is lost.